We’ve all heard the expression, “Discover a job you’re keen on, and you’ll by no means work a day in your life.”
That’s what I believed occurred to me. I fell exhausting for my job of 5 years not due to its title or wage, however as a result of I had a deep, real curiosity within the discipline. My office was a continuing supply of stimulation. I used to be in a position to socialize and be artistic. It was simple to enter intense states of hyperfocus and lose observe of time.
Sounds nice, proper?
What I didn’t understand then (I’d chortle and brush off my husband’s feedback about it) was that my seemingly good office was turning me right into a workaholic. Ultimately, my incapability to detach from work caught as much as me once I burned out and abruptly resigned from the job I had poured a lot of myself into.
Later, I realized that I’ve ADHD, and that its signs had fueled my work habit.
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Workaholic and ADHD
Like different workaholics, my sense of self-worth was tied to my work. I devoted and invested a lot into my job partly due to the dopamine chase, and partly as a result of I couldn’t say no. Nonetheless, I discovered myself envious of different late-20-somethings who had a wholesome work-life stability, pursued hobbies, spent high quality time with family members, and knew tips on how to set boundaries. I didn’t know tips on how to escape of the spiral. I let it devour me till I hit a breaking level.
My office burnout and the whole lot main as much as it made good sense after I used to be recognized with ADHD. I used to be in a position to see patterns of depth, compulsion, and hyperfocus in my education and all through my skilled profession. I even realized that research have linked workaholism and ADHD. My therapist helped me clearly outline workaholism, and the way ADHD signs and traits fed into it:
- Feeling as if I’m “pushed by a motor,” a symptom of hyperactivity, manifested in feeling compelled to work
- My incapability to manage consideration saved me hyperfocused on a process and dealing past what was anticipated of me, even when it meant foregoing different commitments
- Rejection delicate dysphoria (RSD) turned me right into a people-pleaser who couldn’t say no
- Perfectionism, additionally tied to ADHD, led to occupied with work even throughout off hours
- All-or-nothing pondering, widespread in folks with ADHD, left no room for ambiguity. I needed to full each process now, and completely
Quiet Quitting and Work Engagement
So, I’ve ADHD and an inclination towards workaholism. What now?
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As I discover my groove once more in a brand new job, as soon as once more doing work I actually take pleasure in, I’m specializing in work engagement over workaholism. The previous prioritizes making effort to search out pleasure in work. The latter is pushed by compulsion, dysregulation, and little to no pleasure in work. It’s a superb line to tread, and I’m nonetheless studying tips on how to set boundaries.
Coincidentally (or not), my journey occurs to align with the “quiet quitting” pattern, popularized on social media, wherein staff are pondering extra critically about boundaries, office expectations, and the way they method work altogether. Whereas critics say quiet quitting means much less engagement on the job, embracing the pattern has achieved the alternative for me. It’s precisely what I wanted to show down the dial on work hours and switch it up on work satisfaction, which is arguably much more sustainable.
Now, I attempt to follow the next:
- By no means carry work house from the workplace. If I’m working from house, I’ll solely achieve this in a devoted house.
- Keep away from overcommitting and people-pleasing. Discover the arrogance to say no.
- Comply with the Pomodoro approach to keep away from shedding observe of time and revel in intentional relaxation.
- Keep in mind my price as an individual to manage when RSD comes up.
- Do what the function requires, nothing extra, nothing much less. (My ADHD mind nonetheless has bother with this!)
I’m nonetheless new to my analysis and to my new job. Nonetheless, I’m already at a significantly better place. I’m happier, and so is my household. My profession has not stalled, and I carry a quiet confidence realizing that my work can communicate for itself, with out reaching the purpose of burnout.
Workaholic, Quiet Quitting, & ADHD: Subsequent Steps
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